It's September 3rd. So much has changed over the summer, but right now my thoughts are spinning around the idea of marriage... what it means and how to do it 'right,' if there is such a thing.
My son was married on Saturday, September 1st, to a fantastic, loving young woman. She is the perfect match for him. She pulls him out of what I would consider his social comfort zone and has given him a more rounded, exciting life. When I see him look at her, I know he loves her and I can see in her eyes how much she loves him.
So I started thinking about what advice I could share and the one thing that comes to me over and over again, is pretty simple in theory. It's to not ignore the cracks. Everyone knows a marriage should start with a pretty solid foundation. That foundation is typically friendship.
Most homeowners know foundations get cracks. And what happens with a crack that's not taken care of? Sometimes, nothing at all... a little seepage here and there, but maybe nothing to be concerned about. That's if you're lucky. Many times, however, the crack gets larger and as that crack gets larger, the easier it becomes for something to leak out or come in. Eventually the crack can become so large, it destroys the foundation.
Therefore, my advice is... don't neglect the cracks. Do whatever it takes to repair them, however many you find, and do it as often as needed. Don't pretend, just because you're not looking at them everyday, that they aren't there or will go away on their own. Examine the crack, fix the crack and keep that foundation strong!
